Lonely, amongst a crowd

Today has been really hard, no particular reason that today or this morning was worse than any other morning.  Didn’t sleep well as usual, sat and thought all night about Williams last night before he died, was he in pain?  Did he struggle for breath? Could he cry out? The longer I lay there in the silence during the night the more these questions penetrate. By the time this morning came around I felt total despair.

I sat in Williams room crying as the day started, cuddling his reindeer, blaming myself for him not being here, feeling guilty for not taking him to hospital, thinking if I’d been a better mum would he still be here?  I know all of these things are untrue, I was reassured and advised by doctors we were doing the right thing, and I know that I was the best mum to him, he knew that and I know that from the complete happiness he displayed in everything he did, how he loved,  how he laughed, how he grew and how he learnt.

All of my thoughts and feelings are so overwhelming, completely over powering. I don’t know how other parents may feel after they’ve lost a child so needlessly? But I can’t help but feel feelings of blame or guilt, completely unfounded and misguided but it’s natural instinct to protect your child, and my child died so therefore I feel like I failed.

I feel so alone because no one understands these feelings or the reasoning, perhaps because there is none, but they haven’t experienced this, so how can they know how I feel? They try, but how can they understand it if I don’t?

I feel so alone, amongst a room full of family and friends.

2 thoughts on “Lonely, amongst a crowd

  1. It can be very lonely being surrounded by family and friends who can’t completely understand the strong emotions that come with losing a child. I have found a lot of support in the blogging world. It is a club no one likes to be a part of or talk about, but it is important that we all support one another.

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